Date Report

First date with a girl met online today. She was the one to message me in the first place, which is usually a great sign of interest. She was a 7, I could tell she was on the chubbier side, but there was definitely something cute to her which made up for it.

We meet pretty late at a popular bar in her area, about 20 mins drive from where I live. I arrive early, chat it up with both the greeter and the waitress with whom I exchange names and I jokingly ask her stuff. She seems to be really into me, I'm sure it's part of her job.

Anyway, the date arrives, we sit next to each other at a table and order drinks. We discuss my choice of wine and the choice of the place. The challenge for me was to find the right time to kino, she was right next to me, but I couldn't figure out WHEN to do it. I think I did it a couple of times, and one time the timing was off and it felt quite awkward. She on the other hand was naturally "poking" my leg with her hand under the table to get my attention, which felt more like her doing kino on me, pretty awesome.

Anyway, the place gets really loud, and we decide to move to the next bar. Unfortunately at the new place we have to sit quite far apart in front of each other, which made kino basically impossible, and the conversation went stale pretty fast. My wry and absurd sense of humor didn't seem to work too well on her, which made things awkward. At the end I told her that I had to be up early the next day and we left. The date was concluded with a fairly feeling-less hug, and a pretty weak last sentence by me (something retarded like "Oh let me know if you're up to anything interesting").

To be honest the last part of the date felt very forced and the conversation was uninteresting. It felt like she had nothing of interest to say, no experiences she wanted to share, no interests to tell me about. It's partly her fault for not being that exciting of a person, and partly mine for not helping her tell me more. The weak sense of humor, or lack thereof was also a big turnoff. It could have been a fun f-close, but since I didn't even feel like going in for the kiss (there was mabye a 30% chance of that happening) nothing else was going to happen.

Did well:

- talked to the service people in both places, established social value by being known by the waitress even before the date walked in (Wygant's suggestion)
- teased the girl a little bit
- was quite easygoing

Did not well:

- kino is still akward
- conversation got very stale
- choice of locale was sub-par and not very helpful for a date/kino
- talked way too much, why won't I shut the fucking yapper?
- I was relaxed, but I felt my body language and posture were out of control most of the time. Need to get less booze in next time?
- Not even close to being able to kiss on the first date. Again, could have gone for it, but the prerequisites didn't feel there. As the kino video says, it should feel like a natural small step rather than a huge leap forward.