I've always been a bit of a recluse, and I historically liked tight groups of friends better than just meeting everybody at a big social event. Of course that shit's got to go, because there's really only so much you can achieve in life if you're paranoid of being all by yourself among strangers. A big barcrawl was going to happen this weekend and the idea of going there all by myself without knowing anybody was making me really nervous and uncomfortable, so for a while I figured I shouldn't bother, but then I realized that I was letting my anxienty and inexperience decide what I could and couldn't do in life, and so I said fuck it, I'll go and make friends right there on the spot. I've never had to do that for an entire day, but what better occasion to learn? It's also something Style advocates a lot, if there's something that makes you uncomfortable, do it like a boss.
Anyway, I ended running into a few friends at the event, was very social with everybody and excited about meeting new people (met like two dozen people..) and so on. The fun part was of course the girls, and I got to say that I was not in the right mindset (and kind of anxious) for the first half of the day, which was unfortunate, but later on as the booze really kicked in and my buddy took a chubby for the team so I could make out with a cuter chick, I figured I could make something happen that night. I opened a girl at a bar who was with a group (none of whom were really paying attention) and she looked interested, but I lost her pretty fast as I couldn't understand a single word of what she was saying because of how loud it was in there.
Towards the end of the night we ended up at a club, and before going in I exchanged a few lines with a girl that my friend was trying to hit on all night, without any result. Later as everybody was dancing (first time for me approaching women on the dance floor, late bloomer, I know) I caught up with her again and we escalated a couple of times, the first time she ran away until I caught up with her again later and we made it all the way to makeout and hands all over the place, at which point she went something like "my place is a few blocks away", but then she said she still had to "think about it" at which point I replied with "Whatever, your loss" and immediately took off to purposefully dance with a group of cute girls nearby making sure she could see that I didn't really care and was still having fun, and that her not giving it up didn't bother me for a second. Later on I caught up with her again as she was leaving (passing purposefully right next to me) and I asked her if she was leaving, and when she said yes I said "Alright, let's go then", to which she said "Hmm, I don't know", and I responded with "You think too much" which I somehow managed to make sound very confident and so we ended up in a cab together, then at her place for a f-close. First ONS here.
Learnings:
- I need to go a lot easier on the booze. Does anybody know how to be able to avoid it completely without coming off as a dork? First of all, I get really sluggish/slurry when well toasted, far from the classy image I'm trying to convey.
- After a good 8-10 hours of doing the hopping and meeting people, and being well done, I reached this state of Nirvana with little AA left, so I not only could dance my ass of shamelessly in front of groups of girls, while having this big grin on my face the entire time, but I could be very assertive as well in what I was saying. The problem is that it took an entire fucking day to get there, and likely inhebriation was a huge part of it. My goal is to achieve that state off the bat, and without any substance at all, how? Practice?
- Beer goggles, I'll leave it at that.
- Cougars. The girl I ended hooking up with was probably a good 10 years older than me, even though she looked great for her age, and you couldn't easily tell. A 6-7 at best, but I'm guessing I can't be too picky as a beginner AFC. Also as someone who dates girls anywhere between my age and 5 years younger, this was fucking weird. I wanted to get the ONS badge out of the way, but from now on I'm going to be a lot pickier.
- How do you deal with loud crowded locales when talking to a girl in a big mob? It's a clusterfuck...
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